tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-988962265617663341.post7977464771490561140..comments2023-11-05T03:47:33.710-05:00Comments on Arcane Matters: Dreams and Houses and Dream HousesJenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01233972102418274980noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-988962265617663341.post-13532807412187297672009-07-30T09:24:35.789-04:002009-07-30T09:24:35.789-04:00I grew up in NYC and loved it so much that I absol...I grew up in NYC and loved it so much that I absolutely cannot imagine raising my (future) children anywhere else. I loved growing up spending sunday mornings in chinatown eating dim sum, and afternoons after school playing in central park, and I loved the freedom to travel around the city as a teenager (by bus and subway) when all of my suburban friends had to ask their parents for rides everywhere. <br /><br />I know that it is really hard for you right now to be raising the girls in the city, but there are so many wonderful parts about growing up here for them. So much freedom and wonderful diversity and delicious food. I think that spending weekends on long island is giving all of you a really nice balance between city and suburban life- is there any way you could keep doing that? <br /><br />My other thought is, have you ever though about moving to Brooklyn? Neighborhoods like Ditmas Park offer beautiful houses and huge yards all accessible by subway. It may be worth it to spend a day walking around the neighborhood (because it is the most beautiful neighborhood ever) and seeing if it might be a nice compromise for you.boohttp://www.figboiler.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-988962265617663341.post-50494563402123363062009-07-28T12:53:22.804-04:002009-07-28T12:53:22.804-04:00I must sound like a broken record, because I have ...I must sound like a broken record, because I have said it a million times before, but if you have the option, get out of the city. In my opinion, and having been both a city and suburb dweller with young twins, life in the suburbs is so much better (not to mention easier) for a family with young children. Instead of packing my kids in the car with all their stuff just to give them a few moments to play in the grass, I now open my back door and they are free to run. We have a virtual playground back there, with a swing set, a fort, a sandbox and inflatible pool, so we never have to leave. But, if we want to go out, every day of the week, there are free, fun things to bring my children to all within a few minutes drive. I have found a lot more at home moms out here too, and organize regular playdates for my kids so they get to enjoy other children (and their toys) which breaks up the monotony, and I get some adult conversation. The commute does suck for my husband who drives 30 miles a day each way, but the kids get up early enough for us all to eat breakfast together before he goes to work, and some nights he makes it home before they are in bed (they go between 6:30 and 7, so it is hard for him to make it), but as they grow they'll be staying up later and we'll all be able to have regular dinners together soon. I know LA is not the same as NYC, but our life has improved so much by leaving the city. And, as you said, we really weren't enjoying the things we loved about the city anymore anyway, so leaving it all behind was easier than we thought.Jeanninehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09373954258456287652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-988962265617663341.post-10174792442480516412009-07-27T16:55:37.722-04:002009-07-27T16:55:37.722-04:00Hi Lynette- I understand where you are coming from...Hi Lynette- I understand where you are coming from. I am very well aware of the state of the world and its affect on everyone, including my own friends and family and us, as well. We mother was inches away from foreclosure before we bought her house. Of course I am incredibly grateful that we were able to do that, and realize how lucky we are. But, as I always say, we all have issues to deal with. Ours aren't necessarily financial. The overarching theme here is not the size of the house or the type of house but where to raise a family.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01233972102418274980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-988962265617663341.post-25522174045728044122009-07-27T13:02:20.859-04:002009-07-27T13:02:20.859-04:00wow. that house is stunning!
When I lived in NYC ...wow. that house is stunning!<br /><br />When I lived in NYC and was a nanny I was so skittish about being out of the apartment with the kids. I was a nervous wreck! So in some weird way I always equate NYC as a place to live for one era of your life and then when kids are part of your life you have to live somewhere else. <br /><br />Oh & then I saw that documentary about getting kids into preschool in NYC and about died. Good fucking lord!calliopehttp://creatingmotherhood.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-988962265617663341.post-39389073948337051132009-07-27T12:21:41.921-04:002009-07-27T12:21:41.921-04:00I thought that house looked familiar!
School is s...I thought that house looked familiar!<br /><br />School is still a couple years away...and you can strech those LI weekends out until November at least...fall, your favorite time of year! <br /><br />btw, I had to nominate you for a lovely blog award : )Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00144512028031455208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-988962265617663341.post-87180665134817958752009-07-27T12:18:04.023-04:002009-07-27T12:18:04.023-04:00I'm still adjusting to life in the 'burbs ...I'm still adjusting to life in the 'burbs so I have no answers. I think I'm finally willing to admit that on a daily basis, things are easier for us here than they were in the city, but that's not to say I don't miss it.<br /><br />As for dream houses, I think they are made when you live in them, not found.After Wordshttp://www.afterwordsblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-988962265617663341.post-44307386967486802582009-07-27T11:26:11.146-04:002009-07-27T11:26:11.146-04:00That is now my new dream house too. :)
I wish I h...That is now my new dream house too. :)<br /><br />I wish I had the answers. I of course love the burbs and if it were only a decision of where, vote there.<br />Nicole throws a whole different and important bone in to the mix. <br /><br />Good luck.<br /><br />Oh and why is there a time limit to this issue ?K J and the kidshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11768311213861195548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-988962265617663341.post-40057976262333999392009-07-27T09:23:46.979-04:002009-07-27T09:23:46.979-04:00Wow, given the reality for many people these days,...Wow, given the reality for many people these days, this is a little bizarre to read. I say this as someone who has a secure job and is, like you, far too often unsatisfied with my privileged life --- but really, this post does illustrate the question you raise --- can anyone of us (especially Americans) live with more gratitude than materialistic yearning? Perseveration on "bigger, prettier, sunnier, safer, upscalier" is what contributed (caused?) to the economic crash in the first place --- it would be worthwhile spending some time in shoes of the family who just hopes they can hang on to their 2 bedroom ranch house with a leaking roof. <br /><br />No blog so can only leave my name. <br />Lynette Dutten - WisconsinAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com